Thursday, March 31, 2016

When you least expect it... God SMACK!

Wise words from a wise woman who will be missed for her sassy attitude. 



Yes, He does smack me upside the head, sometimes it's just a little love pat from a father who is thinking "shoulda made you blonde".  Sometimes, it's an all out smack right up side the head that knocks me right off my feet, like a loving father thinking "are you kidding me right now???"

God loves us and He does not want us to worry, He wants us to live FULLY and without worry or fear.  Want proof?

Philippians 4:6 

Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

1 Chronicles 22:13
Then you will prosper if you are careful to observe the statutes and the ordinances that the Lord commanded Moses for Israel. Be strong and of good courage. Do not be afraid or dismayed.

Jeremiah 1:8
Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you to deliver you, says the Lord.”


Those really are just a few. We've been given an instruction book for life, it's up to us to study it and act upon it.

I forget, all too often. Last night I worried, I didn't sleep well. All for naught. Yes, there were bumps caused by the thing that I was worried about, but nothing that was not fairly easily remedied. It won't have lasting effects and the discomfort will be short lived. Yet, I lost a nights sleep over it. Why? Because when my worry started I forgot to just say a prayer and let God be in charge.

Obviously, we can't just go about our life expecting God to do EVERYTHING... we have some responsibility. Have you ever heard the lifeboat joke? Doesn't really matter...

My point is... STOP WORRYING! It does no good!  Pray, be open to answers, and get some good sleep.

Your welcome, and good night.

PS... I am not blonde. I do have a blonde daughter. I'm not really of the belief that blondes are stupid. It's a common stereotype that is meant to be harmless and funny. Lighten up. I love blondes, but especially when they can show me up in the clumsy department. 

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

The muck, personal responsibility and opportunity costs



Apparently, based on one email I received from my blog, I am supposed to use this next post as an apology.  It would seem I am wasting every one’s time.

For this, I humbly apologize.

Sort of.

You see, I am a firm believer in personal responsibility and also in an economic term called opportunity cost.

Personal responsibility happens when you accept the consequences of your own actions despite what happened before or who else was involved.

Opportunity cost is what you pay for every single thing you do. If you choose to take a nap, you don’t get the housework done. If you choose to spend your money on junk food, you don’t have enough for a nice dress. See? EVERY THING you do has an opportunity cost.

I apologize you were not taught these things.  I put this blog here, you can choose to read it or not. If you choose to read it the cost might be your time. If you choose to NOT read it, you might miss out on something that makes you smile or a bit of info that can help in your life.

There you go, two lessons. Did you learn anything from it? Yes? Yippee, it seems I might not have wasted your time. No? Well you have another choice. Keep reading, or go away now. The opportunity costs will be the same as when you started.

Moving on…

And true to my title...

These two lessons have been key in my journey. It would be so easy to put blame for things that have happened to me in my life on someone else. Frankly, that would be a lot easier than to admit I have, on occasion, been a butt head.

It is true that we can not help where we came from, we can't always help how others treat us, we also can not always help the situations we find ourselves surrounded by. WE CAN control the way we react to those things and the lessons we take away from them. OUCH! That is a hard lesson to learn. Especially, if you have gotten to be a grown adult and still have not learned this.

Opportunity costs are another lesson hard to take sometimes. Oh how wonderful it is when you are an adult and the world is at your feet and you can do whatever you want, whenever you want... until reality sets in and you realize that if you really do live your life that way the costs can be severe and unpleasant. Of course, if you WANT to get up most days and head to work (at home or out of the home) and skip the beach trips with your friends etc... then this won't make much sense, don't worry, now that you know what to look for, you will see examples of opportunity cost everywhere. And kudos to you for having joy in your work ethic.

I am finding my  "happy place" - that place in my life where I am satisfied and joyful, and in awe of things I use to take for granted. I'm trying to share that here, even while trudging through the muck at times, because sometimes it is helpful to hear it DURING the muck, rather than after someone is already laying on the shore in the sunshine.

I can really see the sunshine most days, but occasionally you will find me swimming in the muck still. We can get through this together. If you need to read from someone who has made it fully out of the muck - go find it there are blogs galore full of those kinds of people. I'm happy for them, I'm glad they are there. I just am not totally there... YET! 

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

I WILL have this LIFE thing figured out by 50, right?

 So, in my effort to be more organized, be more real, get more deliberate, and live a worthy life I have learned a few things. The mission statement from yesterday, for example, I have tried that before and never been so happy with the results. As stated, it's not perfect, but I can see a theme coming through. Faith. I'm trying to grow in my life with faith, and my role as Child of God, as the first focus.

But after nearly 50 years, I am also aware of the fact that change is hard. New habits are hard to make, bad habits are hard to break. One thing I know is that baby steps are necessary. I have made a good start by getting more healthy. I was horribly out of whack a while ago. I was taking lots of supplements, even prescription supplements, but they were not enough. Now, I know it is because they were not absorbing. Secondly, there were not enough, even though it seemed as if I were choking down a whole pharmacy.

A friend introduced me to Thrive by Le-Vel. Day 1'er they call me, because that is the day I felt it. Instant gratification that just got better and better as time went on.

So now my body is getting the nutrients it needs, in two little capsules, one lifestyle mix, and a DFT (patch) all first thing in the morning. :)

Next was getting off my butt. I'd been pretty stagnant. Well, when you fall asleep at the drop of a hat, that tends to happen. Treadmill, added to some normal everyday living and BAM... weight loss and energy and feeling like a real person.

I have since added more exercise, better eating habits, and now am starting to organize other aspects of my life. Oh it's going to be hard. But as I stated I've begun by getting my faith and God where they belong, as my focus, go to, and first thought.

Ok, sometimes it's a second thought because I am a stubborn child of God.

So as to my title. Do we ever really figure it all out? Maybe that is the fun of it. Maybe even the purpose of it all.

Monday, March 28, 2016

Do YOU have a mission statement?


I saw a mission statement for a mom. A normal, housewife, everyday mom. I thought it looked like a good idea so I tweaked it. One for me. Sort of. I think it needs a little more tweaking, but I was curious... how many moms have a mission statement?
Here's my rough draft:



J  Mission Statement  j

My mission is to be deliberate in using the life God has given me to be a blessing to others in everything I do.

To accomplish this mission, I am committed:
D To deliberately seek God and His plans for me in every aspect of my life. So that I may know, love, and serve Him with all of my heart, mind, and soul.

d To deliberately love my husband and my role of wife as described in Proverbs 31. To strive to be his helpmate, friend, lover and a great source of encouragement to him.

d To deliberately love, cherish and teach my children to know, love, and serve God with all their hearts, minds, and souls. And to do this through instruction AND example.

d To deliberately write words that show love, positivity and teach Gods word – directly or indirectly. To be joyful and give joy to others.

d To deliberately place my products into the hands of everyone who will benefit by it in their health or finances. To be deliberate in my positive encouragement of others.


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So, despite mine being a little rough, what do you think about the basic idea? Do you have one? How was it formatted? What do you think? Also, this is a mission statement. NOT a statement of who I think I am already. I've got a lot of work to do.

If you'd like to try to write your own I got my start here: http://intentionalbygrace.com/
She has a lot of printables, ecourses, resources... its put together very well. Enjoy

Saturday, March 26, 2016

Product Review by the Kidlets: Color Mist

Yup that's it, the bottle that others have somehow used to turn Oreos into gold coins and other some such.
I thought that sounded easy and fascinating and fun.

"Oh, what's that?" asked with anticipation.
"That's gold paint." answered an older and wiser kidlet.
"No", I answer "that would be frosting paint." I do have a 5 yr old kidlet, frosting paint works.
ohhhs and ahhhs ensued as I struggled to get the top off.
Oreos came out, frosting paint went came out, spraying ensued.
"Yuck, what is that?" as the older kidlet walks in.
"Frosting paint!" exclaims the youngest kidlet excited with her new knowledge.
"Grose, that stinks!" In unison
"Can I taste one?" asks the boy who would eat goldfish live if I let him.
"That is NOT gold." says the girl with the disgusted look on her face.
"Maybe it needs another coat. Let's let it dry and try again. Open a window."  I'm trying to stay positive but really this was not looking like a great idea.
As we waited we referred to the yellowish stuff we just put on our Oreos and wondered if it really could be any worse for us than the chocloate wafer with sugar laden lard and since it probably wasn't we continued.
Another coat of frosting paint.
Nope, still not gold. However, the kidlets still insisted on a taste test. Despite the smell, despite the nasty color.
Crunch.
"Ugggg that is nasty? it tastes like paint!" From the youngest kidlet.
"I don't think I will eat that." says the one who does not ever wish to hurt someones feelings.
Gulp. As the goldfish eating boy stuffs the whole thing in his mouth.
Spit, sputter, spit.
"That IS nasty! and it doesn't even look good"
"Are you going to try mom?"
"Um, no, I can still taste it from the smell."
In pops the older boy, not having seen the rest of it.
"What's this?"
"Frosting paint! Nasty frosting paint!" From the youngest kidlet who is obviously expanding on her new knowledge.
"Can I spray it on my finger?" Says the adventurous stubborn boy.
"Sure, you won't like it." Says the wise mom, who has learned from the last several minutes.
Spray, pops finger in mouth.
"Oh My God, that burns, and it smells like paint, and it tastes nasty! What were you thinking? That is just paint!" picks up the can to read it just sure that this was some kind of diabolical plot to prank him.
Giggles and laughter from the younger kidlets who all learned those lessons with mom.
A horrified look on the boy's face as he realized this was not a joke, this was not paint, it was indeed meant for ingestion.
"That can not be good for you." Puts down the can.

So there it is the product review from the kidlets of Wilton Gold color mist shimmering food color spray.

And it lead to a question that has pretty much plagued me throughout my life.
Do people really INTEND to make cake (and other treats) that look good enough to eat but really aren't? Or do people really think products like shimmering food color spray, really taste good?

What do you think? Did we just use it all wrong?

Friday, March 25, 2016

Alive: Five Minute Friday

Not my image. I got it from Facebook. 
ALIVE! 
Nearly Easter.
Nearly a celebration.
Nearly Risin.
But first, torture, ridicule, mocking, blood, beatings and death.
For us.
He endured it all for each of us.
We did this. Our sins, our willful disobedience, our lack of character and strength.
Death. A horrible, lengthy, preplanned, predetermined.
A purposeful, meaningful, and necessary death.
Sacrifice.
With perfection.
Perfect obedience.
Perfect timing.
Perfect love.
Perfect saving sacrifice.
Then buried in a tomb,
In the dark,
Waiting.
And on the third day,
ALIVE!

HE IS RISEN! HE IS RISEN INDEED!
HE IS RISEN! HE IS RISEN INDEED!
HE IS RISEN! HE IS RISEN INDEED!
HE IS RISEN! HE IS RISEN INDEED!


Friday, March 18, 2016

Surprise... Five Minute Friday

SURPRISE! 
March 17, 2016
   This was not exactly a surprise, but snow always feels like a surprise to some degree. Even when you expect it. 


Other surprises this week included:
*Learning how easily I am surprised by things that should not be surprising.
*A stomach bug.
*A new product. One I think I'm really really going to like. Hydrolized Collegen Protien. FORM and it reportedly tastes like candy. YUM. Love this inovative company.
*A list of car repairs. Took the big white monster to the shop for an oil change... they found more.
*As always I am surprised by how God works in my life. Again, it shouldn't be a surprise. But it just is. Keeps life intersting though.
*Surprised by the butterflies that still hit my stomach when my husband sneaks up behind me just to tell me he loves me.


Life is AWEsome. Surprises can be incredible. There is always a mix of the good and the bad. How are you going to handle them?  It's no surprise to me that I don't handle the bad surprises very well. But I think I might be getting better. I talk to myself a lot. Now I just gotta work on either
A. not talking to myself outloud or
B. not talking to myself in front of the kids because (again, no surprise) they go blabbing about my frustration to people I didn't really intend to hear my frustration. Sometimes you just have to get it out of your system though.

And being a homeschool mom has one big advantage (according to Facebook anyway) talking to ourselves is not a sign of insanity - it's a parent teacher conference. Whew... bullet dodged.

What surprised you this week?

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Friday, March 11, 2016

Share: Five Minute Friday

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Set a timer, and write for five minutes...

Today's FMF prompt: Share

There are things you'd rather people not share:
Colds - baby girl is coughing up a storm. Started last night and was horrible to listen to.
An extra vertebrae. Sorry to my 4th in line, he inherited that from me apparently.
Inappropriate talk/lessons to my children.

There are things we'd like shared more:
Hugs
Good intentions
Truth
Good news

Today I'm sharing some good things that made me smile this week.

Wild DFT 

Shopping with a kid who watched a little too much Dr. Who

A solution to a problem. 5 Kids, One bathroom, No more stolen towels. 

More mobility! Business Must. 

Begging for popcorn. 

Girls. Books. Homeschool.

Daily must. 3 steps first thing in the morning and DONE for the day.
Energy, relief from discomfort, added greens, suplements. Blessed

New bag. Love. A few lessons learned. Upcycled jeans. Old buttons.
Sewing - well it needs improvement. Still fun. 

More Jean Upcycle, Old buttons. Bracelet.


What made you smile this week?



Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Work It Out Wednesday

 


On my facebook, a question loomed. "Can one BECOME a morning person?"

Yes, yes one can become a morning person. I did. And I answered. I think it depends on why you are NOT a morning person. I was not a morning person. I loved my bed. I wanted nothing more than to stay in my bed forever. I took naps in the afternoon, I slept till 8 or 9 am (not cool for a homeschooling momma) and I had to force myself to get up even then. And two pots of coffee a day was not enough.

I knew I needed supplements, so I got prescription prenatals, took extra iron, took extra vitamin B's and K's and D's and L,M,N,O,P's... ok not really those last 5. I took aLOT of vitamins. Still I would fall asleep even at my computer. Let's face it, I was not a morning person, I was not a late morning person, I was not even a night owl. I did finally find some good supplements that took care of it. They absorb, which apparently the others were not, they made my blood work look different (better) which indicated to me that they really were absorbing, I had energy. AND now I am a morning person.

  • Shameless advertisement here: My new supplements? Thrive by Le-Vel Yes, it is direct sales. No, that is not why I got into it. Yes, I actually get mine free. No, it's not hard. And finally: Yes, I make a nice little profit for myself doing it. (That covers the FAQ's I get about this.) 

Now, I wake up, usually before my 5:30 alarm, but even when I hear the alarm I get up. I don't hit snooze. AND I work out. Treadmill was my go to, now I do a dance workout as well. Yesterday I did both. YEIKS... which led me to this morning. My not so morning person had a discussion with my morning person.

"I don't want to work out." "Suck it up buttercup." "But my legs hurt.""Suck it up buttercup.""But my shoulders are tense." "Suck it up buttercup." And after ignoring myself looking at me with "that look"... "Ok geez sucking it up..." I might die, but I am going to work out... Is it really possible to hate your morning self? Yes, yes it is. LOL

Every day is a new day, not every morning can be all sunshine and roses. What matters is how we face the mornings that are not all sunshine and roses. I'm still learning. 48 years old and you'd think I would have it all figured out. Not so much. Well, I did work out. I did the whole workout. My daughter joined me this morning. I encouraged her to come back tomorrow morning. She's about as coordinated as I am so the dance workout looked a little like monkeys playing this morning but we did it. I had fun. Glad I talked myself into it. Just after the workout I posted this.

Oh My Goodness! Anyone who has ever done Cize might get this but today every time ShaunT said "trip it up" I replied with a sinister "I'd like to trip you up buddy."

However, today I nailed the box step. 

  • Important note: Yes, I realize that Cize is usually associated with Beach Body. No, I don't do Beach Body nor have I ever done it. I just got the disks after asking on Facebook from a friend who didn't like them. It looked like fun to me so I started using them. And my uncoordinated, non-fit self really does like it. 

Not bad for a formally, seriously NON-morning person, I think. Working it out means so much more than just going through the movements. Working it out means that you have to workout your whole attitude.
I do thank God every single day that I found Thrive. It has changed my life. Am I the fittest person in the world, NOPE. I am feeling 100 times better than I did before though and am at least working on the fit part. That is a place I never thought I'd be a couple years ago.



Friday, March 4, 2016

News on Five Minute Friday


Today's Five Minute Friday is News.

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News.

So much bad news going on in the world today... or at least that is what it seems. But we need to remember that good news doesn't sell as well as the bad news. This means we need to open our eyes and pay attention to the real world around us. There is good news out there EVERY WHERE! We just have to look for it.

And when you do look for it and still can't see it... there is one place for you to ALWAYS find good news. The ultimate good news.



I know, right? I have a hard time remembering that too... but there it is in black and white. All the good news you could ever hope for.

And more good news, no matter how long it takes to remember it's there... it will always be there.

And even more good news, Those pics above, those were randomly flipped to. Yet on each page what do you see? GOOD NEWS!

I am not sure I have a favorite verse, because depending on the day I find a new one. However, I have Luke 1:37 on my vision board, so that one will do, it's in the middle picture, highlighted.

What is YOUR favorite piece of good news?

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Thirsting


Thirsting Thursday... I think thirst is a good thing to focus on for Thursday. What do you thnk? 

We thirst for many things throughout our lives. I have been focused on water in recent days as it has become something I crave. It didn't use to be so. Exercise requires hydration if you are doing it right.

And I am thankful for my thirst of water. It is much easier to get it down when you actually WANT it as opposed to just knowing it would be good for you.

Which leads me to another thirst I have acquired: a thirst for gratitude and I have discovered that to be grateful, it helps to notice some of the things we might miss on a daily basis. 

Thanking God For


Today I am thanking God for His encouragement. I have been disheartened with some things recently but a verse caught my eye and reminded me that He is here, with us, no matter what. 

Proverbs 19:21
Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will be established.

That should be in all of our hearts as we go through this political season. 

Praying

I have a lot of people in my prayers, but there are a few who are weighing on my heart these days.
MRL - She's near due with a wonderful new blessing, she's working hard to prepare everything, and the end of a pregnancy is always hard. On top of that she's been very ill throughout her pregnancy with HG. It's horrible. She's ready. Baby not so much. So I'm praying hard for her to get through this last bit with less illness, peace of mind, and patience.

NG and family - They have adopted two children. One of which seems to be adjusting well, the other not as easily. It's hard to watch. It's harder to live, of this I am sure. To be so elated to finally have everything go through and then the crash of reality when things don't go smoothly.

BD and family - Baby was born recently with some health issues. He seems to be doing better, and everything looks promising. I just remember the early days with one of my own when the NICU was our reality and even when we got home things were a bit scary.

Many others of course, if you'd join me in prayer for these I would appreciate it.

Listening to

I love this version of this song. It's a near obsession with me lately. Enjoy. 



Around The House


This boy. not around the house near enough. He talks my ear off when he is. He's learning so much, training to be a fireman. Busy with school and life and sleep. Still here to be under our wing, old enough to start spreading his own wings. Still tonight, around the house, he was kind enough to help me out with the dishes... while talking my ear off. Which makes my heart smile. I reminded him that when he does get done with school, gets a job and goes away that I will expect him to come home for dinner occasionally. No. That was the answer I got. Followed by a smile. 2nd in line of 6. This one is no easier than the 1st to let go. I assume it just doesn't get easier.

There is a comment sectiong below. Use it to tell me what you are thirsting for or grateful for or both.  I'd like to hear from some of my readers, there are a few of you. 

Turn Around Tuesday


Today's turn-around? 


All but the last 1:30...
I'm turning it around.  There was a time a couple of years ago where ^^^ would have been impossible. I couldn't get out of bed much less try and keep up with day 1 at all. Truth be known, I might have been able to stumble through the last bit even but I tripped up and lost my groove and couldn't make myself back up the dvd. But I made it 28:30 min.

So I want to state here that I am not using the beachbody system that is usually associated with cize. I want to make that clear because I have been using a supliment system called Thrive by Le-Vel. I don't have anything negative to say about beachbody. I've never used it. But I have plenty to say about Thrive because I believe it saved my life. Not so much in the short term... but if I'd have kept on the way I was I surely would have died much sooner then I will now. You can not live a long life by sleeping and sitting and hurting.

Shameless plug because without Thrive this turn around Tuesday would not have been possible.

Now off to the caucuses.