Speak kind words... always.
I'm not the first to point this out, nor will I be the last I am 100% sure of this. Today a few stories I saw put this on my mind.
A young woman goes into a store. She's pregnant, very pregnant. She has no other children with her (I'd hate to hear what would have happened if she had) and the cashier is rude. Just plain rude.
I'm sure she thought she was being cute with her "nothing on tv that night?" question, and her follow-up "you couldn't just read a book instead?" But what she didn't know is that the young woman standing in front of her went through so much just to GET pregnant, she didn't really need to hear all this. And was the cashier just trying to be mean? Probably not, but nothing in her words was KIND either.
The cashier could have said any number of things to this young woman that would have been KIND, and without being false to her own beliefs as well. I mean if she was one of the people on the planet who believe no one should have kids. She could have simply wished the young woman to have a nice day.
We (me included) really need to watch how we speak to others. Not every topic is up for grabs. Seriously, the cashier basically asked the woman if she had sex that particular night because there was nothing better on tv, or if reading a book would have been a better choice than to have sex. Now when you put it like that, you can see how this might be a little too personal, but then add to that the fact that her and her husband have had to go through medical proceedures to help them conceive ... too much.
Coming from me, kind of the queen of "suck it up buttercup", this might seem out of place. YES! we tend to get a little to "hurt" over silly things, on the other hand, would it kill us to just think before we speak sometimes?
Another story that came along was one where someone did something really small, almost insignificant for someone else and it literally MADE the second persons day. We never really know what someones day/week/year has been like so saying "you have a beautiful smile" or "that blouse looks really good on you" or again, "have a wonderful day" might just turn someones day from bad to good.