Bossy is not leadership, and I will not stop using one word in place of the other because I want my children (girls AND boys) to know the difference.
|Our current "naturally" miss "bossy pants".|
Ok I tried to let this go without much remark, but since when did "bossy" become a gender specific word? I mean I tell my kids in one form or another that they are being little miss or mr bossy pants and they better change an attitude all the time. I seriously doubt that as my children grow any one of them will give any person reason to say "boy they really have self esteem issues".
|Yeah, no self esteem there...|
7. Discipline (for when they test those boundaries)
8. Basic Care
Notice "self esteem" is NOT on my list? That is because regardless of what I say to my children, if I do it with LOVE and REASON self esteem is a natural consequence. If I make sure they KNOW I love them they will have all they need to succeed in life.
|Our UN-naturally NON-bossy pants! Although at some point|
I am sure she will earn the title, she has just never gone through
that naturally sassy BOSSY stage. Such a sweetie.
|This one here, if we had not taught her not to be a "bossy pants" she |
would not be the same confident, beautiful, young woman. She is still
young enough to miss the "former" title just yet, but she's
And while I understand they are mostly concerned with the girls over there at camp "ban bossy", I don't want to leave the boys out, because boys can get "bossy" too and YES they also need to be redirected.
|This is one example of where leadership gets a former "mr bossy pants". |
I am so glad we taught him the difference.
|Also, not quite a "former" "mr. bossy pants" but so proud ||
of the way he is turning out. He sought out the job that other
kids don't like - taking care of animals in the winter. Leadership
shines through him too.
|Our youngest MR. "bossy pants" looking so much|
like a BOSS. He is learning, just like all the others.
He will be AWESOME as a leader.
As for all the families who buy into this "ban bossy" crap? Good luck to you. There are ways to teach your children that do not lead them to walk all over you, it's hard enough when you do have a backbone, but without one you will need all the luck I can wish for you and then some.