Friday, July 31, 2009

Fighting against the known

I just finished Gregory Berns's book Satisfaction: The Science of Finding True Fulfillment. He argues that novelty and challenge are key components of satisfaction. Other studies confirm that people who do new things—travel to new place, learn a new game—have a greater sense of well-being than people who stick to the familiar. Gretchen Rubin

Since I have not read the book she sites here I am taking what she has said here as my guide. I must say that I have been fighting against something that I know to be true - for years. Routine will make a happier home. At first that may seem to contradict what Gretchen has stated above, but in order to do something out of the ordinary first you must have an ordinary.

I have never done well keeping a schedule, or a routine. This weekend I have some time with which I can do whatever I want, I don't have to work around anyone's schedule or worry about what anyone would "like me to be doing". I'm going to spend the weekend looking through old systems that I have tried in the past and work up a simple routine that I can build on. My intention is to get a start, take baby steps, and think about what parts of those systems will make it easier for me to achieve my number one goal before school starts.

Goal #1: Make this house a welcoming home.

In the past that would have meant just cleaning. But I really would like to feel relief when I walk in the door of my home not more chaos. I want to walk in and know that I am in a comfortable place. I am tired of walking in my home and being struck with all that needs to be done. I want to walk into my home and FEEL cushioned from the rest of the world.

Once I get a routine down, then "new" and "challenging" and "novelty" won't be the norm but truly welcome differences.

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